If teasing is done in a friendly, playful, and mutual way, and both kids find it funny, then you probably don't need to worry. But if it becomes relentless, hurtful, and unkind, with one kid always doing the teasing and the other always on the receiving end, it's smart to address the issue and let the school know.
Unless your child tells you about bullying- or has visible bruises or injuries- it can be difficult to figure out if it's happening. But there are some warning signs. Parents might notice kids acting differently or seeming anxious, or not eating, sleeping well, or doing the things they usually enjoy. When kids seem moodier or more easily upset than usual, or when they start avoiding certain situations it might be because of a bully.
If you suspect bullying but your child is reluctant to open up, find opportunities to bring up the issue in a more roundabout way. For example, you might see a situation on a TV show and use it as a conversation starter. You might want to talk about experiences you or another family member had at their age.
Let your kids know that if they are being bullied- or they see it happening to someone else- it is important to talk to someone about it, whether it's you, another adult, or an older sibling. Praise your child for being brave enough to talk about it. Remind them that they are not alone as a lot of people get bullied at some point. Emphasize that it's the bully who is behaving badly- not your child. Reassure your child that you will figure out what to do about it together and if you need to speak to any Holden Teacher or Administrator. We care and want your child to enjoy learning in an anxiety free environment.
More information on bullying and teasing can be found at www.kidshealth.org
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